A month on and we are still together, haven’t killed each other yet. I haven’t killed her son and I don’t think he hates me too much. We’ve had our ups and downs, I think we’ve all had our moments but all in all I think it hasn’t been too bad of a start.
I actually don’t mind the kid, from my last blog or rant ( whichever you want to call it ) my gf and I had a chat. She brought to my attention that despite having to adapt and take on this new role or however I felt towards her son it shouldn’t affect the way I saw her and shouldn’t change the way I looked or even treated her. After a bit of time I realized she was right. I went from focusing my energy on her which was the most important thing to being a bit distant because of my own issues.
I guess reality is not reality until it’s real. The perfect thought or the idea of being together with your significant other clouds the reality of having her child in your life too.. I would use to think well I want to be with her and I love her yes she’s got a kid that’s just the package and he’ll just be there sort of thing, like we’ll still do us, but she can still have her time with him and I don’t have to be involved you know. He keeps out of my way I keep out of his, me and his mum would be together, everyone wins? Well.. not so easy.. and definitely not the way it pans out.
A month on and I think we will actually be ok.. hopefully he’s warming up to me. He’s actually quite good when he wants to be, he’s been raised around women dominant and I think me, coming from a family of boys dominant it’s clear to see the difference.
Me and my partner are getting along heaps better i mean I accidentally made a joke about her son ( unintentional ) and she took it exactly for what it was, a joke. She smiled, almost cracked a laugh even ( baby steps ) we actually went out on a date the other night, took time out for ourselves with out her son which wasn’t very long I must admit but it was enjoyable. I love her company and I missed having her full attention.
Please bring to your attention that it has only been a month living together and these issues are only hiccups and minor problems, that we will get through together. The things Im letting out are for some to be expected this early on. It just sometimes feels good to let things out ( for me by writing ) then let it build and build.
Im excited I feel we are heading in the right direction.
What’s more, there may be a surprise revealed very shortly. It’s been cooking for a little while yet. 😜
If today was your last day what would be your final request?
1000 Big Mac burgers? A meal with the queen, one last watch of your favorite movie with a buffet of pizza and fries? A visit from Barrack Obama ? Who would you see what secrets will you reveal? You only have 24 hours to do what you want, kiss who you want or spend it by yourself your choice.
How would you spend it?
Crazy aye. The thing about this is in reality you’ll never know when you’ll get your last 24hrs.
Spend your time wisely for tomorrow will always take care of itself.
Everything I say is negative, everything I comment is a dig, having a go, hurtful I’ve changed from being the number one fan to the enemy that brings my partner down.
My partner just recently moved with her 8 yr old son from a different country to stay with me. We’ve been doing the long distance thing for over a year and a half now. Things were great almost perfect given the circumstances. We saw each other 2, 3 times a month spend every day on the phone for hours on end it was like we were together even though we were miles apart.
I asked her to move over because I couldn’t stand the thought of being apart.
On the phone we would spend hours before we would get off, don’t know what we talked about but I’d enjoy sitting there sometimes not even talking just the sound of her breathing made me happy. From sunset to sunrise even somedays.
We went through some things for her to get over but now she’s here, it’s like we just argue all the time, I can’t seem to say the right thing and I feel her tolerance of things I’d say or do is minimal.
I love my partner with everything I have, would never make her feel bad intentionally or bring her down, nor hurt her in any way shape or form.
Here lays the biggest problem. Everything we disagree with has something to do with her son. I know there’s a settling in period but it’s hard for me to let some things slip. Which brings us to our next dilemma. Do I just not say anything to him or about him to her because she’ll get mad or it may start another argument? Do I just sit back and watch my partner do her best.
Do I let this child run this household and me walk on ice. We come from very different backgrounds hence why we see things a little different sometimes. Which makes things harder he’s not my kid i can’t treat him like my own cause he’s not, and il be stepping on someone else’s toes if I tried. but he is still living under my roof.
I want to get closer to him but the way I know how doesn’t go down to well with his mum, wether that be the way I talk to him joke with him. I can never say the right thing.
I need to fix this some how. I love my partner so much but I think we need to find a solution. I don’t want it to get out of hand.
Just a moment like this can turn your bad day in to an amazing one.
Live off the positives.
Do girls talk more then boys?
Do they or did they? Or are they on par.
Right now I’m having trouble distinguishing my guy mates from their girlfriends or just females for that matter. Stereotypically, it’s probably a bit more known that girls have a tenancy to talk about this, that and the other, girl talk, good old chinwag if you like. but jeepers I’ve been in the middle of some bitching. I’ve been in conversations with my guy mates and they talking about someone or something that’s got bloody nothing to do with them cursing this person that person, our other mutual friends, like hello. we came to enjoy good coffee good company, catchup on how we are going not why jo blog is cheating on his partner and your thoughts on there relationship or that you can’t be arsed with x y anymore because he never comes to coffee club now he’s got a partner. I just didn’t get the memo about bringing my knifes to start stabbing our other mates what the actual heck.
I can’t believe my ears sometimes. Then they start talking about what their girlfriends come home to them saying about other girlfriends or other people I’m thinking these girls are the same girls that say nice things to me to my face, imagine what they say about me behind my back, my “friends” as well if they having a go at the other boys. I then find myself having a whinge to my partner about what I’ve just been told and about the boys bitching, their girls bitching and realize that I’m no different and now I’m bitching. It’s a constant cycle that poses the question. Why ?
Anyone know I’m really intrigued as to why this happens.
I myself am not worried about people talking about me cause well let’s face it, that’s free publicity, good or bad the more you talk about me the more I think you want to be me. But I don’t like talking about other people and that’s a fact. I’m not saying I haven’t done it but I don’t like it. I hate people bitching but I hate it even more when i find myself doing it unintentionally. I’m curious to know if it’s just human nature, or even what you think the root of the problem is.
It happens everywhere to everyone.
I see people who don’t see me.
I hear those who don’t speak to me.
I love people who don’t like me.
I give hours to those who don’t give me a second.
I believe them who don’t trust me.
I give to those that a greedy.
I forgive them that hate me.
I trust in thee that created me.
Because of thee,
Music for kids is so beneficial I find, to all aspects in there lives. Talking, communicating, confidence, a new skill and not to mention the many other benefits it brings to a childs development. I recently came across this youtube page of a piano teacher who specializes in making learning fun and after much success in her private lessons she has just released a online starter course for kids to learn to play the piano.. I wish I had this as a kid – check it out and maybe head over to her website and get the course.. I’m heading there now 🙂
Let me know how you get on😀