Differences

Once upon a time, a time not so very long ago, the world was structured in a way that people stayed within the “box.”

Race stayed with race, color with color religious groups stayed with their own. It was un common to see people mix.

Fast forward some decades later, we have all sorts going on, brown with blue, Asians with Africans, the rich with the needy and even the old with the very young. Depends on how you see it, but the world has evolved so much. Thanks to the power of technology (or no thanks, if you are the majority of the older generation).

In terms of relationships, Usually you’ll stick or stay with someone very similar to yourself. Culture was the same so your practices made sense. Religious beliefs were usually the same, lifestyle etc etc. However, nowadays, that has changed. The beautiful thing is people are exploring different to the norm, it’s wonderful how love attracts love and not the color of your skin or the language that you speak. In saying that, this comes with a lot of unknown ground that you are probably going to have to figure out on the way. Complicated but doable as love is love but not always easy. Some things can be so similar yet most things will be worlds apart. It’s definitely not as simple as love is love but the fight for it is. The choice unlike back in the good old days is yours to make, so who you’re with is by your doing no one else’s. You probably will not get some or most things your partner nor their families do, you don’t have to, but you do have to respect it, that’s just the way they are. Embrace it, identify that it’s different and let it be. Otherwise your relationship is going to suffer. Réalise that when going in to a relationship, there is a reason your partner is the way they are. 9 times out of 10 family would have had a major influence. Appreciate your differences as much as you do your similarities. One thing hasn’t changed in time is that relationships need constant TLC, time love and care.

L’orchid

She is the holder of my heart, the keeper of my soul. She proves there is love beyond love. When I thought I had reached loves limits she proves that there’s no such thing. She breathes I stare she smiles I smile she yawns I’m in awe. In awe of a beautiful human being perfectly shaped and formed. Before me she lays there in peace. Quiet, so quiet she blinks she smiles she pokes her tongue out she lays there just lays there I’m in awe my heart melts for no reason other then the pure love I feel and have for such a perfect being. I feel blessed. I am blessed with love beyond love. Im away I miss her I’m with her I miss her. How you could have such a hold over me Is incredible. You are the biggest piece of my heart I promise to love so I am the biggest piece of yours. Thank you for being my daughter, I am blessed to be your father. From now till forever, my precious little flower.

My life not for you or about you but is you. You are every piece of special. You are my little Angel you are my love beyond love.

Non stop

I feel like The ground beneath me is burning my feet.

I feel like the breeze around me hits me like a tonne of bricks.

I feel like there’s speakers in every angle I can hear every sound that exists.

I feel like I always catch the red lights.

I feel like I always time myself for the end of a long que.

Everytime I go to drink my coffee its already cold.

I feel like my control for myself has been taken from the world. 

Things that I hate on social media

One of my pet hates is people giving shoutouts to people on social media that don’t even have social media or put things out that shouldn’t be at all revealed.
‘Happy birthday dad you are the most loving and caring’ yadayadayada, nice words but have you told him in person? He don’t even have social media so why put it up on there? 

-appreciation posts, ‘shout out to my best friend, my partner in crime the one I do life with, my husband the best father in the world’ I mean HELLO how about shout him before he leaves for work in the morning and tell him instead of shouting him on insta where it looks pretty, but he probably won’t get.

Airing out dirty laundry- so my boyfriend is the biggest sweetheart I know but when it comes to special days like My Birthday or our Anniversary he not only forgets but when he remembers he don’t even get me anything. I’m not one to be materialistic but a girl deserves to be pampered now and then right? After all I do take care of the kids that may I add.. ahem.. I get no help from him, he comes home from work eats sleeps too tired to play with the kids but you know he works hard.. SNOOZEVILLE. 
The one that does my head head in. The funeral post. ‘RIP Joe Blog, you will forever be remembered. Yea mate Joe Blog gone he don’t have twitter anymore, I mean seriously. Some even have the balls to put up photos of the dead body in the coffin “rip” How is that even respecting the deceased or the family of the deceased?

Yes everyone has a right to put whatever they want on there social media. But i just think it’s getting out of control. Some things are intimate and deserve to be in house and personal things should be kept personal. 
Beyond your likes and shares there is still the real world. 

A month on 

A month on and we are still together, haven’t killed each other yet. I haven’t killed her son and I don’t think he hates me too much. We’ve had our ups and downs, I think we’ve all had our moments but all in all I think it hasn’t been too bad of a start. 
I actually don’t mind the kid, from my last blog or rant ( whichever you want to call it ) my gf and I had a chat. She brought to my attention that despite having to adapt and take on this new role or however I felt towards her son it shouldn’t affect the way I saw her and shouldn’t change the way I looked or even treated her. After a bit of time I realized she was right. I went from focusing my energy on her which was the most important thing to being a bit distant because of my own issues.
I guess reality is not reality until it’s real. The perfect thought or the idea of being together with your significant other clouds the reality of having her child in your life too.. I would use to think well I want to be with her and I love her yes she’s got a kid that’s just the package and he’ll just be there sort of thing, like we’ll still do us, but she can still have her time with him and I don’t have to be involved you know. He keeps out of my way I keep out of his, me and his mum would be together, everyone wins? Well.. not so easy.. and definitely not the way it pans out.
A month on and I think we will actually be ok.. hopefully he’s warming up to me. He’s actually quite good when he wants to be, he’s been raised around women dominant and I think me, coming from a family of boys dominant it’s clear to see the difference. 
Me and my partner are getting along heaps better i mean I accidentally made a joke about her son ( unintentional ) and she took it exactly for what it was, a joke. She smiled, almost cracked a laugh even ( baby steps ) we actually went out on a date the other night, took time out for ourselves with out her son which wasn’t very long I must admit but it was enjoyable. I love her company and I missed having her full attention. 
Please bring to your attention that it has only been a month living together and these issues are only hiccups and minor problems, that we will get through together. The things Im letting out are for some to be expected this early on. It just sometimes feels good to let things out ( for me by writing ) then let it build and build. 
Im excited I feel we are heading in the right direction.

 
What’s more, there may be a surprise revealed very shortly. It’s been cooking for a little while yet. 😜