Everything I say is negative, everything I comment is a dig, having a go, hurtful I’ve changed from being the number one fan to the enemy that brings my partner down.
My partner just recently moved with her 8 yr old son from a different country to stay with me. We’ve been doing the long distance thing for over a year and a half now. Things were great almost perfect given the circumstances. We saw each other 2, 3 times a month spend every day on the phone for hours on end it was like we were together even though we were miles apart.
I asked her to move over because I couldn’t stand the thought of being apart.
On the phone we would spend hours before we would get off, don’t know what we talked about but I’d enjoy sitting there sometimes not even talking just the sound of her breathing made me happy. From sunset to sunrise even somedays.
We went through some things for her to get over but now she’s here, it’s like we just argue all the time, I can’t seem to say the right thing and I feel her tolerance of things I’d say or do is minimal.
I love my partner with everything I have, would never make her feel bad intentionally or bring her down, nor hurt her in any way shape or form.
Here lays the biggest problem. Everything we disagree with has something to do with her son. I know there’s a settling in period but it’s hard for me to let some things slip. Which brings us to our next dilemma. Do I just not say anything to him or about him to her because she’ll get mad or it may start another argument? Do I just sit back and watch my partner do her best.
Do I let this child run this household and me walk on ice. We come from very different backgrounds hence why we see things a little different sometimes. Which makes things harder he’s not my kid i can’t treat him like my own cause he’s not, and il be stepping on someone else’s toes if I tried. but he is still living under my roof.
I want to get closer to him but the way I know how doesn’t go down to well with his mum, wether that be the way I talk to him joke with him. I can never say the right thing.
I need to fix this some how. I love my partner so much but I think we need to find a solution. I don’t want it to get out of hand.
When you label it the infatuation stage, you’re giving it a time frame.
I breathe because I have breath in me. I’m alive because I’m living. I’m greatful because I’m alive.
I’m rich because i care. I’m happy because i love, I’m wealthy because I share.
My soul crys peace my heart longs for joy. My spirit weeps kindness my love I love the least.
We all love our sisters and wish no harm upon them, yet jump into bed with a different girl every day. You wouldn’t do anything to hurt her, yet cheat on your wife/partner repeatedly.
You would protect her with all you have yet you hit your misses over and over… Your sister is the apple of your eye.
Mum always said the way you treat girls is the way guys will treat your sister. Respect them, treat them right and don’t let momentary satisfaction cost your sisters lifetime happiness.
Keep her close to your heart and let that guide your judgment with the ladies.
Also How your sister sees you treat your partner will be the way she thinks she deserves to be treated.
Building your relationship on sex is like building a house on sand, All it takes is a bit of wind for it to fall and collapse. The base of your relationship must be solid. Men have sex with there body’s, women have sex with their hearts. Now you want to move furniture in to a house built on sand it will never stand. Emotions grow but the foundation stays the same. If you find yourself in this situation bust it down, re-estalish the fundamentals of your relationship. rebuild your house, and watch it stand through the storm.
Music back then, like relationships lasted forever because lyrics had meaning, songs told story’s and was Metaphorically used to win someone’s heart with great sound and sweet melody. Songs we still listen to now and will continue to be all time favourites for decades to come. Music nowadays just haven’t got the same essence, more about trying to get the girl then trying to keep her. Songs now are in now then disappear alongside the artist. Not hardly surprising why relationships these days like the music are one hit wonders.
It’s so important to take time out for yourself. A lot of people are afraid of being alone, or don’t enjoy their own company, scared of silence. How are you meant to hear yourself think with so much racket around? Be strong enough to break from routine, friends, company to breathe in your own thoughts an ideas. Learn to have a conversation with yourself. Regroup, Rectify, reiterate your life at this point. Make sure it’s in order according to you. Take time out to invest in yourself, introduce yourself to yourself before you say hi to someone new.